Build a Biz Kids https://buildabizkids.com Because Kids are Just 1 Encouragement Away from Changing the World Mon, 09 Mar 2020 23:56:55 +0000 en-CA hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.1 https://secureservercdn.net/45.40.155.145/1gi.0e1.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/cropped-Favicon-sq-2-32x32.jpg Build a Biz Kids https://buildabizkids.com 32 32 Benjamin’s Entrepreneurial Journey https://buildabizkids.com/benjamins-entrepreneurial-journey/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=benjamins-entrepreneurial-journey Tue, 10 Mar 2020 23:36:21 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2776

Starting a business is a Journey no matter how old you are! This is Benjamin’s story from choosing his product, the trials and errors of perfecting his product, to making game day decisions to increase his sales and success!

“My name is Benjamin an my business is called Benjamin’s Bomb-a-licious Bath Balms. The teacher of the class was doing a slide show and none of them really caught my eyes or my focus but when I saw the bath bombs I really felt engaged and I really wanted to do it. It took me a long time and a lot of tries and they always kept on falling apart. We actually made them last minute yesterday 9 to 12. There’s a lot of things here that you don’t learn at school and I had no idea they ever existed before I took this program. It also, it teaches kids how to fend for themselves instead of their parents buying them stuff and learning to earn money and learning how to do this before they grow up. Well I didn’t really get a lot of customers at in the first 30 minutes so I was kind of worried ’cause I didn’t make any money, but then my uncle came and he told me to upgrade my elevator pitch and now I have a lot of customers”

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Kid entrepreneur programming is offered by Build a Biz Kids, a local non profit society focused on helping kids to develop and strengthen their essential soft skills. Students gain confidence, and learn foundational skills such as critical thinking, resiliency, financial literacy, leadership, decision making, self awareness, communication, public speaking, and so much more! Find out more about us and our incredible students at http://BuildaBizKids.com

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“Those Big Lumps In Your Path” Brynne https://buildabizkids.com/those-big-lumps-in-your-path-brynne/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=those-big-lumps-in-your-path-brynne Sun, 01 Mar 2020 22:45:37 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2771

Meet Brynne! She had a tough time in her Kid Entrepreneur Program and has to make some tough last minute choices on her business. But her resiliency muscle was flexed and the payoff was HUGE for her.

“My name is Brynne and the name of my business is Wooden Wonders. My favorite part of the program, it was honestly, it was really hard when things kept popping up when I was under a lot of stress during the time where I was preparing. I had to come up with a last minute resort but my favorite part was the best feeling when you overcome that and when a customer comes up, and all you’ve been through is just for this one moment where you’re selling. It’s amazing! When like yes, OK here’s your money, feels awesome because you know all of these things you struggled through. It’s the best feeling when you get over them and this customer comes up, not knowing what happened, but they still want to buy stuff from you. There will always be those big lumps in your path and it’ll be hard to get through them but you will and it’s the best feeling after that. They should take this program ’cause it teaches them, it’s really fun of course, but it also teaches them to get over these big struggles and it will all turn out OK if you just keep working through it.”

Click here to view next semesters KidPreneur Program Schedule

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Kid entrepreneur programming is offered by Build a Biz Kids, a local non profit society focused on helping kids to develop and strengthen their essential soft skills. Students gain confidence, and learn foundational skills such as critical thinking, resiliency, financial literacy, leadership, decision making, self awareness, communication, public speaking, and so much more! Find out more about us and our incredible students at http://BuildaBizKids.com

 

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Owen’s Lesson in Resiliency https://buildabizkids.com/owens-lesson-in-resiliency/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=owens-lesson-in-resiliency Thu, 27 Feb 2020 17:00:36 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2724

Are you ready for a lesson in Resiliency? Meet Owen from Purrfect Totes! he has a few lessons he wants to teach you, and kids, about starting your own business and how tough it can be sometimes.

“My name is Owen and my business name is perfect totes. My favorite part of the program would probably be during market day because market day is when you get sales. You’re so happy but then people don’t come and you have to prepare yourself to get ready for people saying no to you and being denied. Everybody should take this program because it gets you prepared for real life. people are gonna say no to you, walk by you and say I’m gonna come back later and just run. So it’s a great program to get you ready for people to say no and still say thank you.”

Click here to view next semesters KidPreneur Program Schedule

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Kid entrepreneur programming is offered by Build a Biz Kids, a local non profit society focused on helping kids to develop and strengthen their essential soft skills. Students gain confidence, and learn foundational skills such as critical thinking, resiliency, financial literacy, leadership, decision making, self awareness, communication, public speaking, and so much more! Find out more about us and our incredible students at http://BuildaBizKids.com

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Seeking Volunteers! https://buildabizkids.com/seeking-volunteers/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=seeking-volunteers https://buildabizkids.com/seeking-volunteers/#comments Wed, 19 Feb 2020 02:17:33 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2504

Seeking 2020 Volunteers For Assorted Kid Entrepreneur Programming & Events

 

Do You Want To Prepare Kids for ANYTHING? Teach Them What YOU Wish You Learned As a Kid?

You’re Gonna LOVE This!

Build a Biz Kids is a registered non profit society who teach kids, ages 7-12 yrs, entrepreneurship. We aim to develop and practice essential soft skills that are so critical to the world we live in today. Volunteering with us will give you the opportunity to become our Brand Ambassador, mentor students and guide them through the world of KidPreneurship!

 

Volunteer Opportunties

Throughout 2020, we will have numerous opportunties that we would love to invite enthusiastic volunteers to join us. We have roles great for Business Professionals, Teachers, Retired Individuals, Grade 11 & 12 students, College Students and everyone in between looking to contribute your time, energy and passion for kids. 

 

Current Openings

Spring KidPreneur Launchpad Programs 

We are seeking volunteers all across the lower mainland to be an Assistant Facilitator for our upcoming Spring Programs. 

  • Requirements:
    • Commitment – Able to commit to a couple hours a week for 10 weeks (a complete program)
    • Criminal Record Check Working with Youth – Currently have or able to get this from your local police department
    • Coachable – Able to attend a training session on Growth Mindset Language and an overview of the curriculum
    • Abilities – Love watching kids brains grow before your eyes, patience, enthusiasm, and a great teammate for the Lead Facilitator
    • APPLY NOW

Summer Camp Assistant Volunteers

We are seeking volunteers all across the lower mainland to be an Assistant Facilitator for our upcoming Summer Camps in July & August. 

  • Requirements:
    • Commitment – Able to commit to an entire 5 day camp, 9am – 3pm
    • Criminal Record Check Working with Youth – Currently have or able to get this from your local police department
    • Coachable – Able to attend a training session on Growth Mindset Language and an overview of the curriculum
    • Abilities – Love watching kids brains grow before your eyes, patience, enthusiasm, and a great teammate for the Lead Facilitator
    • APPLY NOW

 

Brand Ambassadors, Events 

We have events throughout the year that we would LOVE extra hands and passion behind. From our Kids Market Days ot local community events, we are excited to have a trusted team working with us to help share with other families and inspire more kids. 

Assistance planning and organizing events, help for set up & take down, promotion & support during the events and more! Are you who we are looking for?

  • Great Brand Ambassadors:
    • Commitment – We appreciate any extra time and pasison you are able to give. We only ask that you commit to any activities you have chosen to take on through to completion. 
    • Criminal Record Check Working with Youth – Currently have or able to get this from your local police department
    • Abilities – Love to share with others and talk to the community. Love what Build a Biz Kids brings to youth and cities and can help us to spread the word
    • APPLY NOW

Visit http://BuildaBizKids.com for more information on our programs and non profit society

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Hiring Part Time Spring Facilitators https://buildabizkids.com/hiring-part-time-spring-facilitators/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=hiring-part-time-spring-facilitators https://buildabizkids.com/hiring-part-time-spring-facilitators/#comments Mon, 03 Feb 2020 00:12:15 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2428

Seeking Part Time Facilitators For
Kid Entrepreneur Programming

 

Summary of Role

What if you could teach students, as young as 7, everything you wish you learned as a kid like financial literacy, communication, resiliency, critical thinking and more! Would it be exciting to see the students you teach grow in confidence right before your eyes as they start and launch their first business, earn real money and interact with the public?

Build a Biz Kids is a registered non profit society who teach kids, ages 7-12 yrs, entrepreneurship. We aim to develop and practice essential soft skills that are so critical to the world we live in today. This role will give you the opportunity to be their mentor and guide them through the world of KidPreneurship!

 

Your Role

As a Build a Biz Kids Facilitator, you are an incredible mentor in the Learning Lab and you ask more questions than you give answers. You thrive off watching the minds of kids turn as they develop their own opinions and ideas. You help to guide their learning and are able to follow a set lesson plan, while savvy enough to know when to pivot the “script” to reach the objectives in a way that will better connect with assorted learning styles.

Students have a fixed deadline to get ready for their Business Launch and you are excited to help get them there. You understand that perfection in business doesn’t exist and that there is no “right” answer. Watching kids “fail” are seen as new opportunities to ask different questions and drive their growth to new heights.

You desire to help kids feel empowered and develop their own independence rather than curate a dependency on requiring the “right” answer from authority figures.

 

We Have

  • A detailed, easy to follow 10 week program to walk you through each foundational process & objective to ensure students are ready to launch their businesses by Market Day
  • Tools and equipment required to run a successful program that fits into one accordion carrying case, provided.
  • Initial training program covering the curriculum, Growth Mindset communication with students and managing unique learning styles in the classroom
  • A Volunteer is available for larger classes

You Have

  • A coachable approach ready to implement critical components of the curriculum, while able to understand the objectives of each lesson and pivot as needed in your delivery to enhance the experience for individual learning styles in the Learning Lab.
  • Reliable transportation to get to each class up 15-30min prior to each class starting to set up and receive students
  • A laptop to connect to the TV’s in each Learning Lab to show short video content during class
  • A love of inspiring the next generation to take action on their ideas and giving them the space to be creative and make “mistakes”. You display patience, curiosity and flexibility
  • Willing to, or already have, a valid Criminal Record Check for Working with Vulnerable Adults & Children
  • Are able to commit to an entire 10 week program (1.5-3hours/week) with the option to continue Facilitating for multiple semesters. Participation on Market Day where students launch their businesses is also requested (5 hours on one Saturday)

 

Position Details

Locations – Seeking Facilitators in West Vancouver, North Vancouver, Burnaby, Tri Cities and Maple Ridge

Time Commitments – Programs start in April 2020 and are 10 consecutive weeks long.
Depending on the location and registration, 1.5 – 2.75 hours once a week between 3:30pm – 6:30pm.
If desired, we would love for you to teach 2-3x a week, 2-3 programs for 10 weeks.
A prescheduled Market Day on a Saturday is also requested by Facilitators so you can support your students in their businesses launch.

For more information on the exact venues and programs we seek facilitators for, please view our Spring Program Schedule online here
https://buildabizkids.com/after-school-schedule

 

Compensation

As our Facilitators work committing semester to semester, we hire Facilitators as Independent Contractors.

For Single Classes (1.5hours) once a week for 10 weeks (total of 15 hours), plus Market Day = $500
$45 a class plus $100 for Market Day

For Back to Back Classes (location dependent, 2.75 hours) once a week for 10 weeks (total of 27.5hours), plus Market Day = $850
$75 a class day plus $100 for Market Day

 

Optional Volunteer Participation

We are also seeking Assistant Volunteer Facilitators to help Lead Facilitators run the programs in a supportive role. This includes keeps students on task, providing extra support to those requiring it, and taking pictures and video of the students as they work, learn and succeed.

Visit http://BuildaBizKids.com for more information on our programs and non profit society

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2020 BBK Experience Calendar! https://buildabizkids.com/2020-bbk-experience-calendar/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=2020-bbk-experience-calendar Tue, 28 Jan 2020 17:39:13 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2340

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2020 BBK Experience Calendar!

Can you believe that it is already the year 2020?! 

The Build a Biz Kids Team have been busy and we can’t wait to introduce you to events this year that will help your child learn and develop so many essential soft skills, earn some extra spending money, introducing them to new experiences, all while teaching them about independence, responsibility and financial literacy. Kids are capable of so much AWSOME and we can’t wait to let them show it off!

We have an events and opportunities list that is growing and growing but here is what you can expect so far! If you would like any information about any of the specific events, stay tuned as they are announced, or reply to this email. Some events require applications or tickets, some will have limited space and some are complete open! 

We hope to see you a LOT this  year! 

Perspective Developing Events

Dragon’s Den is pretty great but have you ever wondered how those Entrepreneurs got to be so good at their Business Pitch?

Join us as we attend Volition Advisors Practice Pitch Nights! Watch as Real Entrepreneurs deliver their business pitch and gain valuable feedback from the judges.

RSVP: Required by Email Once Event is Posted
Frequency: Multiple Events a year
Next Event: TBA Soon, Stay Tuned
Location: Vancouver, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Education, Empathy, Business Communication, Public Speaking

Do You love watching a great TEDtalk? Then you will love Get Inspired. From the Executive Producer of TEDxStanelyPark, Get Inspired Talks is where speakers offer fresh solutions to humanities pressing problems. 

Tickets will go on sale soon! Build a Biz Kids will have a special discount.

RSVP: Tickets are Purchased, Coupon Code Available
Frequency: Twice a year
Next Event: May 23rd, 2020
Location: Vancouver, BC
Valuable Takeaways: New Perspective, Education, Inspiration, Empathy, Public Speaking

A Hero’s Journey is a tough one when youa re in it, but WOW, does it ever make for a great story! Start Up Vancouver hosts Entrepreneur stories from the CEO’s & Founders themselves.

The ups, the downs, the tough decisions. This is the real world of an Entrepreneur and they wouldn’t have it any other way.

RSVP: RSVP Required by Email Once Event is Posted
Frequency: Mulitple Events a year
Next Event: TBA Soon, Stay Tuned
Locations: Vancouver, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Education, Empathy, Business Concepts, Public Speaking

Incredible Skill Development Opportunities

We have so many exciting events coming up this summer and we are looking for BBK Ambassadors to help us Inspire more kids while getting out important messages!

Auditions will be held to find clear & confident communicators who would like to be our spokesperson for our BBK Takeover! Be “On the Scene” & post to our social media to share what’s happening & create Excitement.

Auditions will be scheduled soon so stay tuned for more information!

RSVP: Audition Appointment Required
Frequency: Twice a year
Next Event: TBA Soon, Stay Tuned
Location: LowerMainland, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Confidence, Communication, Persuasion, Public Speaking
Contact: Email info@buildabizkids.com

2nd Annual BBK & Ruben’s Shoe’s Takeover!!

We are holding auditions to find a team of enthusiastic Ambassadors to host our Social Media Takeover again! Auditions will be scheduled soon so stay tuned! We can’t wait to see what engaging content these Kid Commentators come up with this time!

RSVP: Audition Appoiontment Required
Frequency: Once a year
Next Event: TBA Soon, Stay Tuned
Location: Tri Cities, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Confidence, Communication, Persuasion, Public Speaking
Contact: info@buildabizkids.com

Have you ever imagined being on a stage, sharing your story and inspiring millions? Well you might just get your chance! TEDxYouth is in the works and details will come. The actual TEDxYouth event wont be until 2021 but auditions will be in 2020. 

Details to come, stay tuned!

RSVP: Audition Appointment Required
Frequency: Once a year
Next Event: TBA Soon, Stay Tuned
Locations: Tri Cities, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Public Speaking, Communication, Persuasion, Body Language, Confidence & more!
Contact: Stay Tuned!

SPRING is Here!! And with it comes our next KidPreneur Programs! We can’t wait to see what unique and fun businesses students come up with this year.

We have even more locations this year and registration is already in fun swing! Register Today to ensure your child is ready to go for April.

RSVP: Registration online
Frequency: Once a year
Next Program: April, 2020
Location: North Van, West Van, DT Van, Burnaby, Port Moody, Maple Ridge
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Business Concepts, Financial Literacy, Critical Thinking, Communication, and so much more!!
Website: View Our Schedule & Register Here

Fun in the Sun & Life Skills Education all mixed into one! What better way to spend your summer than by starting businesses, inventing one of a kind prototypes, and so much more!

Registration is Open! All camp locations will be posted by April, 2020.

RSVP: Registration Online
Frequency: 8 Weeks of Assorted Camps
Next Event: July & August, 2020
Location: North Van, West Van, Burnaby, Van, PoCo, Maple Ridge (coming soon)
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Business Concepts, Financial Literacy, Critical Thinking, Communication, and so much
Website: View Our Schedule & Register Online Here

With the Holiday Season of giving around the corner, what could be a better time to start your first business!?! KidPreneurs in this program work step by step to start and launch thier first business! 

Real Kids, Real Customers, Real Money, Real Life Experience & Memories to Last a Lifetime!

RSVP: Registration online
Frequency: Once a year
Next Program: September, 2020
Location: North Van, West Van, DT Van, Burnaby, Port Moody, Maple Ridge
Valuable Takeaways: Perspective, Business Concepts, Financial Literacy, Critical Thinking, Communication, and so much more!!
Website: View our Schedule & Register Here

Great Experience & Family Fun 

This is one of the MOST Fun events of the year for the Whole Family! Ruben’s Ruckus is like Tough Mudder for Kids. This 3k Obstacle Course will test their endurance and challenge their fears.

All funds raised to towards Ruben’s Shoes who builds schools in the Dominican Republic.

RSVP: Tickets for Entry to Race, Free for Spectators
Frequency: One a Year
Next Event: May 9, 2020
Location: Coquitlam, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Resilience, Tenacity, Teamwork, Physical Excercise, Supporting Community Through Fundraising
Website: https://www.rubensruckus.com/

Build a Biz Kids will be supporting the Port Moody Rotary again this year at Ribfest and we will be on the lookout for some great BBK Representatives to help us out! 

Funds raised will go towards the Port Moody Rotary who contribute to great causes all over the world. 

RSVP: Entry by Donation
Frequency: Once a year
Next Event: TBA, 2020
Location: Port Moody, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Confidence Building, Helping Others, Sales, Public Speaking
Website: http://www.portmoodyribfest.ca/

If you are looking for an opportunity to continue building your business while stepping up your game, then Bratz Biz is the place for you. This Kids Market Day is held in Whistler just in time for Xmas Giving. 

Apply early for this one! It’s very competative and will surely help you sharpen your skills. 

RSVP: Application Online
Frequency: Once a Year
Next Event: TBA, Winter 2020
Locations: Whistler, BC
Valuable Takeaways: Financial Literacy, Sales, Communication, Customer Service, Critical Thinking, and more!
Website: https://bratzbiz.ca/

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Practicing Decision Making https://buildabizkids.com/practicing-decision-making/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=practicing-decision-making Fri, 01 Nov 2019 00:46:04 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2207 Did you know that Decision Making is a Skill? It falls under Soft Skills but it is anything but soft, it’s critical!

When kids are given the space to make decisions, and do so, it’s important that we use that moment to credit them with that. Not the topic or actual choice that they made, but the action of choosing, making a decision, is one we want to encourage.

For my son, I want to encourage him to try new things. New food, new clothes, hair styles, friend, sports, and so on. You can see that moment in your kids eyes when they over think something and it becomes a really big, painful deal. An easy example for us is trying new food. Our son is not a fan of new food and, when we tell him he has to try it before declaring he doesn’t want it, you can see the panic start to rise the longer he thinks about whether he will actually put it in his mouth or not.

The other week he asked if he could try something we were eating. That is an action we want him to do more.

Another example is what he is going to do to keep himself occupied while we work. Often it is a struggle to get him to do anything other than watch his iPad, which is very limited in our home, so when he made a quick decision to take his scooter to the skate park, we were elated!

Teaching moments are all around us, but it is so important for us, as parents, to be aware of WHAT it is we are wanting to praise. Praising results, even if the results are exactly as we wanted them to choose, are not the actions we want to praise. That is what can develop into people pleasing, low confidence adults.

Instead we want to praise the process of how they got to those decisions, the action of deciding what they wanted or thought was best, whatever that may be.

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Come to Practice Pitch Night! https://buildabizkids.com/come-to-practice-pitch-night/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=come-to-practice-pitch-night Thu, 31 Oct 2019 19:46:47 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2202 Have you ever watched Dragon’s Den or Shark tank? Isn’t it incredible to see how those business owners can go up with such confidence in front of the investors and pitch their businesses?
Like everything, those business owners had to Practice their Pitch and that’s what Volition Advisors does!
We have been given a special invitation for Build a Biz Kid students of past, present and future to come out to their Practice Pitch Nights to watch new business owners practice their pitches in front of judges to gain crucial feedback so they can get better.
This experience is priceless as it will give your KidPreneur perspective on the business world. 
  • It takes time to get “good”
  • It takes practice to get better
  • It takes critical, sometimes negative, feedback to see your opportunities to improve
Students will not only learn these skills but they will gain training in between pitches from Paul, CEO of Volition Advisors, on how to improve their communication and persuasion skills in general, as well as the formula of how to give the “Perfect Pitch”.
Next Event
Thu, November 7, 2019
5:30 PM – 8:30 PM PST
Location
Galvanize
#1500 – 980 Howe St
Vancouver, BC
This event is Free! Just email us to register. If you register using the link above, they ask for a donation if you register through the link above of $1+
Send us an email if you will be attending or to ask questions. You can reply to this email or send one direct to info@buildabizkids.com
Leah Coss, President of Build a Biz Kids, will be there to welcome you to the event.
Parents and Students welcome. KidPreneurs, please wear your Build a Biz Kids T-Shirts if you have attended a program previously. 
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Are You Winning or Losing? Does It Matter? https://buildabizkids.com/which-road-is-harder-reaching-your-goals-or-not-trying/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=which-road-is-harder-reaching-your-goals-or-not-trying Sun, 06 Oct 2019 18:20:34 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2127 Imagine your child won a Nobel Prize for giving one big idea to the world, through taking action. Do you believe this is possible? Do they have it in them to be exceptional?

I really hope you said yes, because it’s true. No matter what intellectual, physical or other limitation they may have, giving the world a great idea and taking action on it is in all of our power and control, but it can be a tough road.
Developing a Growth Mindset is not just about helping them do more or become smarter kids, it’s about developing their coping skills and having a healthy attitude towards difficult obstacles they will face in life.
Why is it that we love to watch biographies or hear stories about incredible people who have done incredible things? Do we just enjoy hearing about the part where they won the medal or their book was published, or they climbed the mountain? Of course not! That part is only satisfying when we can hear the “story” of how they did it.
It took how many years to write that book? And she was how old? And so broke that she was behind on rent?
Oh my gosh! You mean she broke her leg but managed to win an Olympic Medal in Figure Skating? How??
They got the idea for how to plant more tree’s faster by watching their daughter play in the sandbox? So cool!
It’s the story of how the band Queen came to be formed that is interesting. It’s how someone like Oprah ends up becoming Oprah. It’s the story of the invention of the first light bulb and Michael Jordan’s rise to fame that keeps us in ah. But why?
A part of all of us believes we are capable of more than we currently present. When we hear stories of “success” and their grass roots, we are reminded that everyone starts our the same. In diapers, curious about the world and falling over and over again as we learn to walk.
Yes, we all have different upbringings. Some of us have incredibly supportive parents and others were in households of abuse. Some were encouraged in sports and had the means to pay for expensive equipment and coaches, while others had none but always loved to play. For every story of success where someone “had”, there are just as many stories from someone who “had not” but still become a success.
Why weren’t we those exceptions? Life is tough. End of sentence. It really is, but I don’t mean in a physical sense. Bills need to be paid, yes, and that person cut you off in traffic that caused an accident, that really sucks. But when I say life is hard, I mean that no matter where you come from, the have’s or have not’s, we all fight battles in our heads.
“Did I do that well enough?”
“I know I could do more but I don’t feel like it”
“Why are they doing better than me? Why can’t I have that as well?”
“What am I doing wrong?”
“I wish I had said something differently back there. Now it’s too late”
Man, it’s exhausting being in ones head. Whether you appear confident or not, whether you can afford things or not, our brains are constantly questioning what we are doing and trying to convince us of false truths. It’s an animal with basic needs to protect and survive. It does this to help but it is mental torture for many.
So, let’s bring this back to a growth mindset in our kids. Why is it so important?
Because the commentary in a growth mindset sounds more like this:
“Wow, that didn’t go as well as I thought. Now I know what they want to hear for next time”
“I’m tired today but I have almost reached my goal. I can’t wait!”
“I wonder how they got all of those things? I should ask and learn from them”
“What am I doing wrong? I should ask someone experienced for help”
“I missed an opportunity to say how I felt. Next time I will remember to express myself more clearly”
Well I’m inspired. And Excited! A growth mindset uses energy to grow, not beat down and dwell on things that no longer matter.
This Weeks Growth Mindset Parent Challenge is, “I love that you didn’t quit on this, even though it was tough.”
The key to instilling a Growth Mindset is to keep their self identity and “pride”, if you will, in the process of doing and trying, not on the results. You will notice that the phrase doesn’t specify if they got an A or not. It doesn’t say, I love how you won the game and didn’t give up. This isn’t about winning! Every top athlete has lost many games before they won. Every successful business owner has failed at numerous things before succeeding.
Encourage them never to quit, even when it get’s tough. Get their brain to attached to positive emotions and chemical stimulation when they encounter something tough. That’s their cue that something satisfying is here and now. Not when they get the A. The process is the exciting part.
Try using this phrase and add it to your collection from past weeks. Like all things, practice takes perfect, mom and dad. That goes for you too.
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Labeling Your Kids to Shape Their Identity https://buildabizkids.com/labeling-your-kids-to-shape-their-identity/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=labeling-your-kids-to-shape-their-identity Sun, 22 Sep 2019 22:02:33 +0000 https://buildabizkids.com/?p=2047 Parents Growth Mindset Challenge Week #2!
How did it go last week? Did you practice using the Growth Mindset Phrase?
It takes practice but WOW! What a difference you will see in your kids.
Try to actively use this weeks phrase. This Growth Mindset statement is doing 2 things.
Firstly, it is positively reinforcing great behavior, which in this case is asking for your opinion. Kids, and all of us, want to do good things. We all want positive attention and be praised for good behavior. Asking for other peoples opinion is a great skill to have. It demonstrates leadership, helps others feel valued, and can build incredible teams who can do incredible things as a strong unit. Humble people ask for others opinions; Insecure individuals and those with inflated egos do not.
Secondly, this phrase is labeling them as a “Considerate Person”. We are helping to ground their identity into a positive personality trait. By pointing out that they are in fact a considerate person based on the action they just displayed, it is not an empty comment. They will feel like the compliment has been validated in their minds and, therefore, must be true. When humans can tie their identity to a trait, they act in accordance to it naturally without effort. New connections are made in their minds to display this behavior and every time they act in accordance with it, it reinforces it further. It becomes who they area.
But be careful, it works both ways. If you label your child negatively, the same thing will happen. We never mean to do it, but it does happen. Perhaps they are playing with another child and take the other child’s toy away. You want to immediately correct this behavior but stay something like, “Don’t do that. You aren’t not a good sharer.” That statement is just as effective as the positive label. They will believe you and find opportunities to prove that phrase is correct.
Or perhaps you ask them to clean their room for the 10th time and finally say, “You are a terrible listener!” or “You are so messy!”
We never intentionally mean to hurt their identity, but it happens. Everything worth doing takes conscious practice until it becomes an unconscious, positive habit.
Try this weeks Growth Mindset Parent Challenge. Intentionally use it. Find opportunities to use positive labels with your child and watch them develop almost overnight.
Stay tuned for next week!
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